I have a love/hate relationship with the word “flattering”. In one sense, you want to wear clothing that does flatter you, makes you look and feel good. But as a plus-size woman, I cringe when someone tells me something I’ve put on is “flattering”. I suppose it’s because for so long, folks equated flattering with skinnier. I remember watching makeover shows on TV as a kid, and watching suburban moms lament over how much weight they’ve gained and stylists helping the sad swan find clothes that “flatter” her.
Anyway, when I finally got these pants from the Priscilla Ono x Eloquii collection I was pumped. They looked amazing on the site and I just knew they would be a wardrobe staple. But when I tried them on I was…miffed. There was so much volume in my belly – more than my actual belly. My immediate reaction was to return them, though they fit perfectly fine throughout my hips. Then I had to sit with myself and ask “why don’t you actually like these?”
Then I realized I actually DID like the pants. No, honestly I LOVE these pants. I just felt like other people wouldn’t like them so I’d written them off. So in an act of liberation, I tucked my shirt in. One step further? I put a gold chain belt on the area I was trying to hide. Because every day there is something that questions my journey to self confidence, and I screamed “NOT TODAY” in my greatest Arya Stark voice.
What steps do you take towards building your confidence?
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